The unexpected news that changed my life

_DSC6638I know, my blog has been a bit of a ghost town until now. I’m sorry I’ve been away for so long! It’s been months and months since writing and so much has happened. Something huge that has surprised and shocked me and also changed the entire course of my life’s journey. Something I thought would never happen has actually happened! This has both delighted me while also prompting me to retreat into my Cancerian shell.

Last year was huge for me. I took many steps outside my comfort zone. The most significant leap was sharing my fertility struggles. It’s not something that was easy to do, but it was something I felt I needed to do. It also allowed me to reveal a part of me with those who know me well. Fertility can be a challenging topic to speak about. Writing about it was healing for me. You can read about my fertility journey here and about how I made peace with this news here.

The setbacks that we have in life can often lead us on the path to where we are destined to be. Looking back, I understand that it was all for a reason, a higher purpose and a catalyst for me to truly grow and understand myself. It has also taught me the biggest lesson in gratitude.

At the end of last year, my husband and I were blessed with the news that I was pregnant. At first, I couldn’t believe that the positive pregnancy test was true. I didn’t allow myself to feel any emotions, even after the third positive test. With my ‘infertility diagnosis’ I thought it was something to do with menopause. Once the doctor confirmed it, I just cried, a really ugly cry too! Breaking the news to my husband is a day that we will both never forget.

Of course, after wanting this for the last four years, I spent most of my first trimester feeling a little bit scared. I just wanted everything to be ok. Coming from a place where I believed that this was not on the cards for me, it felt surreal and unbelievable, and well into my second trimester I still felt this way. I just couldn’t believe it, even with my growing tummy.

I’ve been in my own world and not sure how to share my surprising news with you on this blog. I have definitely gone within myself and felt many different emotions. I’ve been worried, ecstatically happy, disconnected and dazed! Most of all I’ve felt blessed and deeply, deeply grateful.

I’m not saying that women who fall pregnant easily don’t have these same feelings, but for someone who has been trying for years and years and has been told that it wouldn’t happen naturally, this is just the most amazing news in the world! Every day I wake up and know how blessed I am, because after four years I know what it’s like to want to be pregnant. Every day my husband and I acknowledge how grateful and lucky we are because we were given a ten percent chance of this even happening.

As I write this, I am now in my third trimester and the news has finally sunk in! With each day, week and pregnancy milestone, I am getting so much closer to meeting our baby girl. Miracles happen everyday.

I’m so excited to share some of the lessons and learning that I have experienced in the past few years, including most recently with my pregnancy. My future posts will be more personal than what I have written in the past. I would love to hear from you if you have any questions or are going through something similar so please leave a comment or a message. Thank you so much for coming along on this journey with me.x

How to enjoy the outdoors

_DSC6611A series of moments is what makes a life. Life shouldn’t be so serious all of the time. Sometimes we need to focus on living and have some fun. The warmer months are the best time to get some fun into your life, enjoy the beautiful outdoors and spend your days or evenings doing more of what you love. Here are a few ideas that will get you outside and enjoying all the amazing things that this season has to offer, even if you’re on a budget!

  • Walk around your neighbourhood before or after work
  • Notice the beautiful flowers that are blossoming right now, so many amazing colours
  • A sunset picnic dinner at the beach
  • A picnic in the park
  • Go for a bike ride
  • Spend a day at the beach, pack some fruit, sandwiches, cold drinks and a good book
  • Try stand up paddle, surfing or canoeing
  • Visit your local farmers market for the freshest produce, mangoes anyone?
  • Have a BBQ and eat dinner outside
  • Go for a beach walk
  • Go for a swim at the beach, local rock pools, creak or in your backyard pool
  • Decorate your home with fresh flowers
  • Make a delicious fruit platter to enjoy sitting under a tree
  • Play a round of golf
  • Be still in nature, hear the birds chirping and smell the flowers
  • Wear dresses again, let those legs see the sun!
  • Open all of the windows in your house and let in the fresh spring air
  • Visit your local botanical gardens and explore
  • Check out the free activities happening in your local area. This could be an outdoor cinema, new markets, food markets or active and healthy programs
  • Go camping and switch off your phone!
  • Blend bananas, berries and a little coconut water to make your own ice blocks
  • Add fruit to your water for added flavour and goodness. Try mint, cucumber and orange, watermelon, lime and basil, watermelon and rosemary, lemon, lime and orange or berries. Serve it in a jug and drink it poolside.
  • Invite your friends over and play a game of bocce in the backyard

What activities would you add to this list? Please leave a comment below.

33 Years, 33 Things

_DSC6638Birthdays are like a personal New Year. I like to take time around my birthday to reflect a little on the year that has just passed and where I’d like to head moving forward. Last month I turned 33. A seemingly uneventful birthday and age to be turning. But I like the look of the two 3’s, numbers seen in doubles seem magical to me. So I began to think about what are some things I have learnt in my 33 years? Which nuggets of wisdom have shaped how I live my life today? Read on and I’d love you to leave a comment if any resonate with you.

  1. Some things are worth waiting for They really are! Sometimes it’s the journey, not the destination that matters the most, we get more out of it to enrich our lives. Then when that moment finally arrives we are filled with gratitude.
  2. There is more satisfaction in simplicity A satisfied life does not need to be complicated. The times when I have felt the most happy and satisfied have been the times when I have got back to basics and all of the materialism from everyday life was non-existent. I experience this the most while camping. It’s all about eating, sleeping, playing and resting. Simple!
  3. There will always be highs and lows Just like a rollercoaster! Having faith that you will make it through the lows to the highs is what it’s all about. There are always opportunities for growth and new knowledge and perspectives. Again, if we didn’t experience the challenging times, would we truly appreciate the good times?
  4.  If you want something, work hard for it Most of us don’t get what we want handed to us on a silver platter. It usually takes hard work and I believe that if you just try to get where you want to be, you’re successful in life. For me, I worked hard at university the first time around for 5 years. I changed my whole direction and decided to become a teacher so went back to university and worked really hard. I wanted to buy a house so worked really hard to save for that. When you work hard for something, finally achieving it fills you with a sense of pride and accomplishment.
  5. Be still in nature We belong in nature and this is so important to feel more connected and grounded. It’s my ‘go to’ to feel more balanced and peaceful.
  6. Quiet the mind and the answers will come For me it helps to go for a walk and be mindful of my surroundings. It quiets the internal chatter and inspires clarity.
  7. Sometimes you just need to go with the flow Yep, we can’t control everything, sometimes we need to just trust, surrender and allow.
  8. There is a lesson to be learned from everyone you meet It can be inspirational or a ‘what not to do’ kind of lesson but I truly believe that I have learnt something from everyone in my life. Some have given me more lessons than others. We can learn from their experiences, action, knowledge, lifestyle, how they speak etc. Be open to it all.
  9. Be grateful for the small things If you feel you have nothing to be thankful for, begin with the small things, they tend to add up.
  10. Family will always be there for you Sometimes you will not always get along, but you know that they will always be there for you.
  11. Get to know your grandparents One of the best relationships in my life was with my Nanna. We were great friends and were quite similar. We shared a sense of independence and a sense of humour. We spoke weekly and I learnt a lot about her life before she became my Nanna. I have so many memories of her being there throughout my whole life. She was probably my biggest cheerleader too! So comforting to have the wonderful memories.
  12. Travel and you will understand yourself better There are often challenges along the way, how do you handle them? You’ll find yourself experiencing different cultures, how does that affect you? You may find yourself all alone or meeting many like-minded people. You won’t come home the same person.
  13. Travel to truly appreciate where you come from I’ve been to some amazing and beautiful parts of this world and met some very generous and happy people. But as an Australian who has travelled to many different countries, I really am appreciative and grateful that I am a citizen of such a lucky country.
  14. Just travel! It’s the only thing you can spend money on that will make you richer!
  15. Sometimes not getting what you want can be a wonderful stroke of luck The Universe has better plans for you. That job you didn’t get? There’s a better one for you. That person who broke your heart? It was to make room in your life for someone better.
  16. Keep calm and have a cup of tea Having a rough day? Just breathe and put the kettle on!
  17. Just eat real food Mostly plant based, not from a packet. You can’t go wrong!
  18. Truly take in the moment Be in the moment, take it all in, give it the attention it deserves then look back on it with a smile.
  19. Invest in yourself The best investment you’ll ever make is in yourself. You can do this through healthy eating, getting enough sleep, exercise, self-care and study. Whatever you enjoy, do that!
  20. Healing is a matter of time, but it is also a matter of opportunity – Hippocrates It won’t happen overnight, trust the process. Digging deep to heal your mind, body or soul will present you with opportunities you would never have thought possible. My fertility journey has certainly showed me this is true.
  21. Drink water Why would you want to drink anything else? Really?? 😉
  22.  Positivity is a choice It’s not always the easiest choice. It involves mindfulness and acceptance. The people in my life who have stayed positive through challenges have been the most inspiring to me. Take each day as it comes, choose to see the good.
  23. Have a sense of humour Life shouldn’t be so serious all of the time. Sometimes you just have to find the funny side. Having a good sense of humour is a quality I love in others.
  24.  Be able to laugh at yourself People who can laugh at themselves and situations are generally more relaxed in my books.
  25.  If you have a passion or interest, make it happen! No one is going to hand it to you on a silver platter, go after it, chase it, fail and try again. Do what you love.
  26. Opposites attract I like to think of it as yin and yang, it can be the ‘perfect’ balance. It allows you to see things from a new perspective or try things you wouldn’t usually try.
  27.  Enjoy being alone “In your silence, when there are no words, no language, nobody else is present, you are getting in tune with existence.” – Osho Spending time on my own has always been something I enjoy. I love having the house to myself, I enjoy going to the beach or for a walk on my own, I’ll go to café’s on my own. I love my ‘me’ time.
  28. Find an exercise that you love For me, I love walking and yoga. I love that this kind of exercise gets me outdoors and I can enjoy the beautiful sounds of nature, the fresh air and the sunshine.
  29. Listen to your body Your body is giving you messages all the time, about the foods you eat, the amount of rest you have, the exercise you do and even stress and drama can take its toll on your body. Listen to your body, it’s smarter than you.
  30. Say no You can’t be all things to all people. When you want to say no, with love, say no.
  31.  There are mean and selfish people out there but it’s up to you how much you let them get to you It’s up to you whether you give them the time or not. I know which one I choose.
  32. Love makes life better It really does. Doing things with love, doing something you love and finding those you love and love you back. Life is dull without love.
  33. Strive for progress not perfection I don’t believe that perfection is an actual destination. Make every day better than the last.

This list wasn’t in any form of priority of importance. Some are simple and some are more thought provoking. These ideals, lessons and truths have certainly contributed to who I am today. Which one’s did you resonate with? I’d love for you to leave a comment below.

What is a Health Coach?

What is a Health Coach_

Health Coaching is a relatively new thing in Australia. I must admit that two years ago, I had no idea that Health Coaches even existed! Now that I am a Health Coach I thought I’d shed some light on what I do and don’t do.

First and foremost, I aim to empower people to live their own version of a happy and healthy life. I do this by truly listening to them about their concerns, goals and dreams. We discuss solutions to issues or problems and through this, the client often comes up with their own plan of action.

Health Coaches largely work with people who are generally healthy but may have mild health concerns such as headaches, sugar cravings and fatigue. We discuss ways to ‘crowd out’ caffeine, sugar and junk food as well as anything else that the client may need support with. For example, choosing the best gluten free or dairy free alternatives.

Clients experience great success in achieving their goals when they are able to come to their own conclusions about their health. For example, someone who has sugar cravings may never have thought about what triggers this. We encourage clients to listen to their body and ask meaningful questions to facilitate an understanding of the particular unhealthy habits that they want to overcome.

Of course, health isn’t just about what we eat. Often what we eat is secondary to everything else going on in our lives. Health Coaches take a holistic approach to health and wellness. We encourage clients to move their bodies and find an activity or exercise that they enjoy as well as explore what makes them happy.

Other areas to explore and discuss for your overall health and wellness include career, relationships, education, home environment, self-esteem, creativity, spirituality and stress-management. Your Health Coach is there for you to provide support with what you need to improve your health and wellbeing.

Can you think of a time in your life when you have had someone’s unbiased and undivided attention? When you have had someone truly listen to you and cheer you on? When you have had someone hold you accountable to your word so that you achieve your goals? This is the major role of a Health Coach.

It is not the role of a Health Coach to diagnose, prescribe treatments or cure illness. We cannot give medical advice or tailor meal plans or recommend medications. We are not doctors, Nutritionists or Dieticians. Clients would find great benefit in working with a Health Coach alongside these professionals. We can assist people in how to action recommendations from their health professional in a way that fits in to their lifestyle.

You will find that there are Health Coaches out there who specialise in different areas. This may be because they have overcome or experienced a particular situation or health concern or they may have a background that complements Health Coaching. What is important is that you are able to find someone you are comfortable with and relaxed talking to. Only you know what is best for you.

If you are ready to make some long lasting and positive changes to your health and wellness, you can find out more about my Health Coaching Program here or contact me for your free consultation here. The right time to start is always now!

Maybe you are interested in becoming a Health Coach too? I’d be happy to answer your questions. You can contact me here.

Shine Bright!x