I know I have been very absent from my blog for the past year, I’ve been enjoying mummyhood and surrendering to my new lifestyle in order keep flow and balance in my life as much as possible. Rather than give you a rundown of what life with a bub looks like for me, I thought I’d express some of my musings and ‘aha’ moments while taking care of my babe and watching her grow. Babies are so innocent, I’m sure you already know that. I believe there is so much wisdom in their innocence. They haven’t been exposed to societies ideals or opinions, marketing or other things that impact our thoughts and behaviour. They are perfectly themselves and I think it’s a great reminder for us to go back to being ourselves and what truly matters. So I’m sharing some of my lessons from my darling girl, in no particular order of importance:
1. Be in the moment
One of my favourite mantras; ‘Present moment, only moment’, really rings true. Babies are always in the moment, noticing the things around them, in a state of just ‘being’. They aren’t thinking about the past or the future (it seems to me!). Whatever activity we are doing, they are there one hundred percent. When was the last time you were truly present in the moment?
2. Sit up straight
Wow, when babies learn to sit, they have the straightest backs! When did we begin to slouch? Just looking at my girl sitting is a reminder for me to activate my core, put my shoulders back and sit up a little taller.
3. Be curious
If something grabs your attention, explore it. Don’t leave it alone until you’re satisfied you understand it. Always observing, questioning, learning, keeping that mind active and expanding and growing within yourself.
4. Speak up
Ok, so my baby was never a quiet baby. She’s quite the communicator! In those early days, a baby’s main form of communication is crying and my girl was loud. But I love that when she was hungry, tired, wanted comfort, had wind or whatever it was, she ‘spoke up’. She certainly let me know. People aren’t mind readers, sometimes you need to articulate and spell out your needs and wants. Don’t be afraid to speak up for yourself. I know for most of us its way out of our comfort zone, but we all have a voice, we should use it for what matters to us.
5. Keep trying
When a baby is learning to sit, crawl, walk, climb etc, they never master it the first time. They fall, they get bruised, it hurts and it’s frustrating. But that moment when they have mastered it, they know it. The look of pride and joy on their face just makes your heart explode! I’m sure they know how hard they have worked for that moment, what they have learnt along the way and how good it feels to finally achieve their goal. What a wonderful lesson to apply to our own lives! Never give up, learn from your mistakes and enjoy those successes.
6. Celebrate the milestones (no matter how small)
I think this one beautifully leads on from the previous lesson. Celebrate all of your achievements. Sometimes it may be that you stuck to your exercise goals for the week, prepared a delicious meal or got a promotion at work. Celebrate! With babies we get excited about the first time they poo, smile, roll over, crawl, walk, eat a particular food etc etc. Bring back that sense of wonder into your own lives!
7. Enjoy the simple things
My baby is a true nature girl. She has a lot of toys but her happy place is in the garden, playing with leaves, sticks, rocks, mud, sand and watching animals and people. Splashing in the water is exciting, watching fish swim is interesting, daddy coming home from work is a favourite time of the day. Playing little games like peek a boo is fun. Family time is even better. Remember what truly matters and enjoy it!
8. Life is a musical
Yep, you can make up a song about anything in life and about anything you are doing. Just for fun and to keep the baby amused and settled. Try making up a song while you’re getting dressed or doing the dishes. It will turn the most mundane tasks into entertainment and it will put a smile on your face too.
9. Don’t take no for an answer
How many of us mums say no to our babies and they do it anyway? They are pushing the boundaries and seeing how far they can go. If someone says no to you, and it’s something that is important to you or something you really want, go for it. Find another way to get it or do it. I recently read a something that said the world changes every single time you say yes to your dreams. How amazing is that?! Don’t let no stop you in chasing your dreams.
True love is unconditional and actions can speak louder than words. All you need is love.
I could probably keep going but 10 lessons is enough for now! I’d love to hear if you’ve learnt some life lessons from your little darlings in the comments below.
Shine bright lovely ones.xx